Fat Dancer: Campaigning For Body Positivity
Great piece. All positive, all encouraging. WATCH IT NOW, DAMN YOU!
Some of the language in this piece I could take to task (eg. “her weight problem”), but, still appreciating her vibrance.
thulie is one of the FIERCEST fashion bloggers. i’ve been pinning her looks all dang night. she is perfect!!!!!!!!!!!!!
stop telling fat people that they shouldn’t call themselves fat
stop telling us that “fat” is a bad word
stop telling us that our state of being is a fucking insult
#nofilter because that’s just how ethereal they look just bein them #rhinestonecowboi #tenderheart #mywetdreamz #femmeprince #femmes4femmes
When you grow up with stigma, people tell you a lot of well-meaning things that actually cause problems. When you face people treating you like you’re less of a person, someone will often say something like:
- "You’ll prove them all wrong some day".
- "It’s ok. You’ll show them. You’ll prove that you’re better than they ever could have imagined."
And then, when you accomplish things, it often becomes, “Well, you proved them wrong, didn’t you?”People who say this often mean well, but this is a form of victim-blaming, and it can hurt people who believe it really badly. The truth is:You didn’t prove them wrong. You never had to prove them wrong. They were already wrong.Prejudice is not something you have to earn your way out of. Dehumanization isn’t your fault. You don’t have to prove that you are human in order to be human. You don’t have to have amazing accomplishments in order to prove that you have worth. Everyone has worth. People who don’t recognize yours have always been wrong.You didn’t prove them wrong. They were already wrong. About you, and about everyone else too.You might have to fight to be seen as a person. You might have to fight for your life and your safety and for basic respect. That’s a fight you may or may not win. It’s a fight that, no matter how hard you try or how good you are, you will never win all the way. There will still be those who hate you and see you as subhuman.But you can be ok, anyway. You’re ok. You’re whole. You deserve better. It’s not your fault they don’t see it. It’s theirs.You have always been a full person, fully deserving of respect and equal treatment. People who treat you as a lesser being have always been wrong.Knowing that helps.
fat girls finish 10K races
Other compliments that do NOT focus on appearance:
It’s so nice to hear your laugh.
It’s good to see you.
I’m glad you’re here.
That was clever.
You’re so thoughtful.
You make me laugh.
I enjoy your company.
It’d be nice to receive compliments like this once in a while rather than throwing them out and getting nothing for it.
1st pic my outfit for today. really showing off my .99 cent ebay jewelry buys.
2nd form a few weeks ago when i went to a family dance party at the UUFF. It was a sock hop so i had to have socks on lol. the skirt really shows off the legs.
Torrid, dress, pink top, and skirt.
lane bryant jeans
avenue shoes and socks.
Dear god, I’m so bored of this conversation. Fat people literally cannot talk about being sick of how they’re treated without someone crying BUT WHAT ABOUT THE THIN PEOPLE???? I’m so tired of conversations about thin privilege that revolve around being careful what you say about thin bodies!
I did not, at any point, infer or outright say anything that referred to thin bodies the way people constantly refer to fat bodies. I did not call them ugly or shameful or disgusting or unworthy or unhealthy or immoral. I did not, and would not, ever use that language to describe any body.
To shame someone’s body is to make them feel as though it’s wrong. To make them feel as though their body does not deserve to be. Me saying that thin people do not experience the systemic oppression that fat bodies do is not shaming. Stop throwing that word around. Thin people are not shamed on a systemic level for their bodies.
Anyone can have insecurities, of course. But fat people’s insecurities are constantly being reinforced by toxic messages. Now, if you want to get nuanced and talk about the reasons why a lot of people experience insecurity based on messages from our societies, let’s talk about how body insecurities are often tied up with misogyny and Eurocentric beauty ideals; with ableism and classism and transmisogyny and gender roles.
Body posi enough for you now babe?! ♥♥♥
shout out to people who are scared to call others out, whose hands shake when they try to explain what’s wrong, whose throats threaten to close up with thoughts of ‘what if i’m just overreacting’, whose hearts are pounding out of their chests because they just stuck their necks out for their beliefs, who have lost friends and respect and safety for aligning themselves with causes
I’ll respect your opinion as long as your opinion doesn’t disrespect my existence.